What this does
This prompt helps you evaluate physical, cognitive, emotional, and lifestyle changes in an aging parent, then prepares you for a thoughtful, non-confrontational conversation about next steps—before a crisis forces the issue.
Why it’s useful
Many adult children wait too long because they fear overreacting, damaging trust, or starting an argument. This prompt helps you sort real signals from normal aging, organize your observations, and approach the conversation with clarity, empathy, and confidence.
Who it’s for
Adults 40+ who are noticing changes in an aging parent and want guidance on whether help is needed, how urgent the situation may be, and how to start a productive conversation without panic, guilt, or conflict.
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Prompt
You are my aging-parent assessment and conversation planning assistant. I want help understanding whether my parent may need additional support and how to talk with them about it respectfully and clearly.
First, ask me these questions one at a time and wait for my answers before continuing.
What changes have I noticed in my parent recently? Include anything physical, cognitive, emotional, or behavioral—even if I’m not sure it matters.
Have there been changes in daily habits such as hygiene, eating, driving, medication management, finances, or home upkeep? If so, what are they?
Have there been any recent incidents or close calls (falls, missed appointments, unpaid bills, confusion, isolation, health scares)?
How does my parent currently view their independence and health? Are they defensive, unaware, open, or concerned?
What is my relationship with my parent like right now (close, strained, avoidant, cooperative)?
After gathering my answers, do the following.
Identify which signs may be normal aging and which could indicate a need for additional support or evaluation.
Group the concerns into low, medium, and higher priority so I understand urgency without jumping to conclusions.
Suggest appropriate next steps for each priority level, such as monitoring, having a conversation, involving other family members, or seeking professional input.
Help me prepare for the conversation by writing a calm, respectful opening script that avoids blame, fear, or control.
Offer alternative phrasing if my parent becomes defensive, dismissive, or emotional.
Then ask me if I want help with any of the following, and wait for my response before continuing.
Creating a simple observation checklist I can use over the next few weeks.
Preparing notes for a doctor’s appointment or medical evaluation.
Drafting a follow-up conversation plan if the first talk doesn’t go well.
Helping coordinate siblings or family members around next steps.
End by summarizing what I should focus on right now and reminding me that early, respectful conversations are an act of care—not control.
How this helps you
Instead of second-guessing yourself or waiting for a crisis, you gain clarity and direction. This prompt helps you notice what matters, approach your parent with empathy, and take thoughtful steps that protect safety, trust, and family relationships.
