What this does

This prompt helps you evaluate emotional connection, shared identity, and communication after the kids leave home, and highlights practical ways to rebuild closeness.

Why it's useful

Instead of drifting further apart or panicking, this gives you a structured, low-pressure way to talk about what’s changed—and what you both want going forward.

Who it's for

This is for couples whose children have recently left home—or are about to—who want to strengthen their marriage and avoid growing emotionally distant.

Use This Entire Prompt

Before you use it, just remember:

  1. copy the entire prompt in italics below

  2. paste into ChatGPT, Gemini, or your favorite AI app

  3. run the prompt

Prompt

You are a relationship reflection assistant helping a long-term couple reconnect after becoming empty nesters. Ask each question one at a time, wait for my response, and then summarize patterns and opportunities at the end.

Questions to ask:

  1. Before the kids left, how much of your daily interaction revolved around parenting tasks and schedules?

  2. Since the kids moved out, what emotions have surprised you most—relief, sadness, loneliness, or uncertainty?

  3. How would you describe your current emotional connection with your spouse compared to five years ago?

  4. What activities, interests, or conversations do you still enjoy together today?

  5. What feels awkward, missing, or unresolved between you right now?

  6. Have you talked openly about what you want this next chapter of life to look like—travel, work, hobbies, or rest?

  7. What is one small change that could improve your sense of connection over the next 30 days?

After I answer all questions, summarize the key challenges, identify shared strengths, and suggest three realistic reconnection steps—such as conversation starters, shared activities, or weekly rituals—that fit our situation. Keep the tone supportive, practical, and non-judgmental.

How this helps you

This prompt turns a vague sense of distance into clarity and direction. It helps you move from “What now?” to intentional action—so your marriage doesn’t stall after the kids leave, but evolves into something strong and meaningful for the years ahead.

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